I had started typing something else this am for the blog when I came across my man at Stay Fit For Duty Facebook thread. So, I deleted what I had and started over. It was titled “Start Today.” In my personal experience, the starting has always been the hardest part with anything. Diet, exercise, sobriety, lifestyle changes or whatever it could be. The majority of us homo sapiens get caught in analysis paralysis. We get to the proverbial edge of the door, and think our way out of jumping. We think about EVERYTHING that could go wrong on the way down, especially before the chute opens. We envision our body splattering on the ground due to a faulty chute, the plane crashing, getting impaled by a bird at 200 mph, getting hit by a meteorite or what ever else our lustrous minds can come up with. We do this with fitness, finances, mental health, relationships, careers and even school.
For the most part we are thinkers, not doers. We think about getting started tomorrow. Just one more day of comfort and I will get started tomorrow. One more night on the town and I will get sober tomorrow. Tomorrow becomes a repetitious cycle of never ending misery and self abuse. One more will never be enough, hence why we eat 4 donuts instead of just one. It is a vicious cycle that plagues millions of people each day. We get off the hedonic treadmill by doing, not thinking or saying. So how do we wage war on change? Like the famous Nike saying, Just Do It. If you have ever heard me speak before, you have most certainly heard me say that “Radical Change, Takes Radical Change.”
How do we make Radical Change in our lives? How do we break out or go to the next level? By Waging War! Wage War on old mind sets, limiting beliefs, past behaviors that no longer serve your life. I am a huge Mel Robbins fan, if you don’t know who she is, figure it out. She has a thing called the 5 Second Rule. It is a simple process, count down from 5 and take action before your brain kills it. Sounds simple enough, but it takes consciousness and being aware of thoughts, habits, and hedonic adaptations. The 5 Second Rule pushes you towards action, and action change things! (ACT) If you want to change where you are, you have to change where you are mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally.
Goals, there is a lot of talk about goal setting. Kind of like resolutions, goals can be inanimate. We must set INTENTIONS with goals. I INTEND to start eating better NOW. I INTEND to start working out NOW. I INTEND to take better care of myself NOW. All we are truly have is this moment, the future is a gamble so set your intentions for now. What are your intentions? Write them out where you can see them daily, even set reminders on your phone to nag the piss out of you. Make your intentions known, it will help build you a support system. Years ago when I started my weight loss journey I put it on social media, so I knew everyone would be watching. It helped me lose over 60 pounds. I set the intention, and waged war.
Community. It is key to have a community of support any time you are wanting to change a habit. That is why AA & NA are so successful for people because it provides a support system of like minded people. If you are wanting to get sober, don’t hang around people who are getting drunk. If you want to lose weight, don’t hang around people who are banging Papa Johns every night. It’s a simple equation. Look at cross fit, it has blossomed into the satanic cult that it is because of community. People literally break there bodies to be in the cross fit community and to tell everyone that they cross fit. I’m joking, cross fit is a phenomenal workout and system. The community that it gives people is the tribe mentality we are genetically wired for. So find your tribe of weirdos!
Seek wise council. Every man and woman should seek wise council for all matters in their lives. In tribal communities there is an immense respect for tribal elders because they’ve been there. Seek council of those who are where you want to be. Often time this takes harnessing the ego and pride and seeking help. All great people have sought council from elders and coaches. There are people who have done it the hard way, so work smarter not harder. We are especially hard headed with this when dealing with mental health. We get stuck in the analysis paralysis and just end up stagnant.
Do something different. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different result. We stay in the same mind sets, physical states, careers for years while being miserable. We inherently fear the change that we seek. If you are unhappy with your weight, change. If you are unhappy with your job, change. If you are unhappy with your relationship, change. Just Do It, Change. If you don’t like the view, change. We take on a tree mentality and believe we are firmly rooted somewhere or with something or someone. That is your ego lying to you. Wage War!
In the bone chilling words of Jocko, “All excuses are lies.” The BS story you tell yourself is nothing more than an excuse, and all excuses are lies. We make excuses for all the negative stuff in our lives. We take credit for the good, make excuses for the bad. We focus on the bad, and forget about the good. We lean towards the negative feed back loops in our brains. It is easier to make an excuse than it is to take Extreme Ownership. A lie is easier to tell than the truth. We seek the comfort rather than discomfort. We have to stop lying to ourselves and to others and wage war on change. Stop making excuses!
Change in whatever fashion may not be easy, but it is worth it. The hardest thing I ever did was get sober, yet it was the most rewarding. The same goes for losing over 60 pounds and quitting a job that no longer added value to my life. Our Ego keeps us from changing and making excuses, check yourself and your ego. If you make a 1% change everyday, in 30 days you will be 30% improved from where you were. That is a 30% return on investment! In the financial world that is huge! In 365 days, that is a 365% increase! Boom! It only takes 9 months to create a human being, so you can totally recreate yourself in just a few months. The only way to get started is to start. “Do today what others aren’t willing to do, so tomorrow you can do what others cannot.”
If you need help or advice, reach out. Do’t go at it alone. Operators are standing by, or I will answer the phone. lol.